Celebrate the elegance of being a real you- kind, caring, compassionate, ambitious, humorous, thoughtful and so much more on this international women’s day!
Believe in yourself!
Life is like a rollercoaster ride. The modern living is full of ups and downs. We all face challenges of day to day living. Mounting work pressures, unpredictable commutes, finances, health worries, raising kids to trying to strike a balance between family and work life. Ups and downs of daily living can bring one down or be the cause of feeling overwhelmed. Have faith in yourself and your abilities.
You have done wonderful things in the past, and you will continue to excel in the future. Do not let the setbacks question your self- worth or leave you feeling devalued.
Be kind to yourself and let your inner strength and resilience grow. Treat yourself with the same degree of compassion you would treat a loved one or a dear friend. Many of us struggle with the idea of being kind to ourselves. They find it difficult to extend the same loving kindness to themselves as they would bestow upon their parent, child or a partner in need. Even when we are struggling and we need compassion the most. Instead, when things go wrong, we can be overly critical and blaming of ourselves. This self-judgement leads to negative ruminative thinking, resulting in –
Lack of Happiness
Low Self – esteem
Low Confidence &
Furthermore, research shows when we become our own friend and extend the kindly attitude to ourselves, we bounce back early when faced with adversities and can cope better. And the good news is that we can cultivate the skill of self-compassion! A skill of building an intentional relationship of respect, kindness and compassion with oneself. It helps achieve sustained positive emotion. And it is essential for the greater self development as it makes us more confident and emotionally resilient.
We can learn to practice self-compassion, by seeing ourselves worthy of kindness and care and by being our own friend! When things are not going well, we need compassion the most and not self-criticism.
The inner critic gets stronger when outcomes do not meet our expectations. We tend to be harsh on ourselves, generating all sorts of unhelpful thoughts and worries. Feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness follow along with a reduced self-esteem. This makes us feel increasingly helpless throwing us into a downward spiral of guilt and hopelessness.
Learn to silence the inner critic by practicing mindfulness meditation – living in the moment, here and now. Develop the awareness of your inner critic generating unhelpful thoughts and worries. Once you develop the awareness of your inner voice, and all of the unhelpful thoughts and worries, you will know how to ‘respond’ in adversity rather than ‘react’. Mindful people can cope better with difficulties without getting overwhelmed or emotionally shutting down. In practicing mindfulness, they develop clarity of thoughts and feelings and when combined with self-compassion, increase the resilience and strength.
Take a 5 minute mindful walk outdoors or indoor. Be aware of your posture, stand tall, hold head high, look people in the eye with smile on your face. Enhance your sensory perception. Notice objects, people, pets, sounds, aromas around you.
Secondly, indulge in self-care by simply being nice to yourself. Spending time doing something or treating yourself to indulgence that will give you a sense of satisfaction without feeling guilty.
Thirdly, practice gratitude. Write down three things you are grateful for. No matter how big or small. Really feeling the emotions, when you are being thankful, while expressing in words. Experiencing the warmth of the heart or a sense of pride or even tingling down the spine.
Once you start journaling the things you appreciate, you will find more and more things you are grateful for. Be it family, friends, health, pets or even nature! It’s the same feeling of warmth when you show kindness to a loved one or hold the door to a stranger.
Also by doing an act of random kindness, you can shift the focus away. One small act of kindness can make a big difference in someone else’s life. Act of random kindness may be helping a neighbour with groceries, checking on an elderly relative, calling a friend, or even leaving lunch for a homeless or anything you can think of.
The act of random kindness will be valued more in the world where any act of kindness shown to family or friends is considered a favour, obviating the need for ‘returning the favour’.
Be gentle on yourself. Be your own friend and treat yourself with the same degree of respect and kindness you would treat a loved one. Believe in yourself and stay amazing!