Difference of opinion is many a times cause for arguments at personal, social or work environment. Difference in viewpoint can lead to confrontation. When two people see things differently it can lead to one person insisting they are right and the other person should agree with them, more problematic if this is repetitive and persistent. Differences in thinking, in fact, can bring fresh perspective to the matter at hand. The situation can look a little different when viewed from the other side. We need to acknowledge that other side. Just like two sides of a coin, when looking from one side, you are aware of the existence of the other side but fail to see it. There will always be the other side to every situation or topic. Nobody is always right!
We form our beliefs based on our upbringing, our surroundings and our exposure to the external world. Many factors play a role in the way we think or behave or form opinions. Life experiences shape our view of the world around us which vary from person to person. And that means every person is different. Their backgrounds are different. Sometimes you may not even be aware of how you are dealing with a particular situation or your own reaction, verbal or non-verbal. During a conversation, you may never have heard of some topic and not sure how to respond, or may not have been in a similar situation before. And at times we limit ourselves by our own judgments, not thinking widely, or not thinking outside of the box. Blaming others or our own limited mind space for failing to understand them.
People can’t see beyond their own viewpoints or beliefs when overwhelmed by their own emotions. Heightened emotions work as a deterrent to any balanced conversation. In these situations, in no time, a pleasant dialogue can easily build into some form of discomfort or escalate into an argument. People can’t handle the situation well or their impulsive behaviour in the heat of the moment. As a result, they change their attitude towards the other person. They can stop verbal communication, avoid eye contact, harbour a feeling of dislike, or go to the extreme and sever the relationship – all leading to dissatisfaction and unpleasantness; completely ignoring the fact we can live alongside each other with all the differences of opinions or views.
We don’t always have to agree with the other person and neither the other person should insist on you agreeing with them on every matter. We ought to be tolerant of each other and accepting of our varied opinions. It is possible to strike a positive chord with each other and strengthen our personal bonds for great minds should think differently so that we all can see the other side. We all can live harmoniously alongside of each other in our personal relations or at work places, despite having differences, only when we start seeing past our own limitations. Let go of the impulse to grasp or push away certain experiences. Letting go doesn’t mean you are resigning or that you are disinterested, it merely means you are accepting things as they are, accepting of the other person with their opinions, beliefs and differences in order to move on, without harbouring ill feelings.